Book Review: Always Know What to Say
Review Rating for Always Know What to Say: Three Open Books
A change in career has led me to pick this book, hoping that it will help me become an effective conversationalist.
Just to give a bit of a personal background. I’ve worked in the digital industry for several years until I made the big shift. So even though I’m an ambivert, there are still cases when I get lost for words. I never saw that as a problem while I worked as a freelancer and stayed mostly at home. I can even start and hold a conversation fairly well.
But it’s different when the person in front of you is someone prominent in his/her field or someone with a different cultural background.
I just get tongue tied and never know what to say.
While I tend to keep my mouth shut when I don’t have anything to say, it’s a whole different when I’m on duty. I just can’t stay at the side and be a wallflower when my primary responsibility is to build relationships with other people.
So I decided to read this book.
To be honest, I don’t have any high expectations from this book, but I wish there was more to it.
The Always Know What to Say book starts off with a rundown of reasons people fail at first-meeting conversations. I find them helpful in some way because they helped me understand why I suck in socializing at times.
Next is the author pointed out the techniques on how not to fail in your first networking or social activity. They’re pretty basic, but they’re most helpful for people who lack social skills.
Fast forward to the last few chapters of the book, the author gave tips on how to increase self-confidence. Nothing specific but just qualities that you may want to develop to become more confident in front of people. In other words, they’re ways to help you gain more experience in life so you can have your own stories to share.
What I Don’t Like
On a different note, while Always Know What Say is written with the average person in mind, I still think the book needs more editing. I like that the writing style is conversational, friendly and informal, but the grammarians and the perfectionists might cringe at the myriads of run-on sentences. Technically speaking, I think the book needs a little boost in the grammar and punctuation areas. The long sentences could really be broken up in to short, less complicated ones.
Three open book rating. While I like how the tips and strategies were simple and easy to do, the books wasn’t engrossing enough to make me focus. There were plenty of times when I fell asleep after reading just a few paragraphs.
I guess the book didn’t have what I was looking for. I’m not saying it’s a total waste of time. It’s just not comprehensive is all.
If you need a confidence boost to help you become more comfortable approaching people, this might help. But if you’re looking for something more, you may consider something else.
Come to think of it, I remember reading a book once. How to Talk with Practically Anybody About Practically Anything by Barbara Walters. I read it when I was in college, it really helped the introvert in me. You may want to consider reading that or pair it with Always Know What to Say book.
About the Author:
Excerpt taken from his website: www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert and the author of several very well received books on personal development. This blog is his online home for articles about communicating with confidence and letting your true personality shine.